Think Less, Love More: Learn to overcome your overthinking and let more love in, for yourself and in your relationships

Think Less, Love More A book for anyone who overthinks in love and wants to finally feel again. Do you read a short text for the fifth time because the heart is missing? Do you ask whether everything’s okay between you, and then not believe the answer? Do you check when the other person was last online, even though you told yourself you’d stop? Then you know these evenings. Nothing happened, and still you lie awake playing out what the text could mean. The next day you text differently than usual, ask one more time, or test whether the other person will reach out on their own. Often all they notice is that they’re supposed to explain themselves, and they don’t know what for. And at night you talk to yourself more harshly than you would ever talk to someone you like. Think Less, Love More won’t make your head go quiet. No book can. It shows you how to listen to it without letting it decide what you do in your relationship and how you treat yourself. To get there, you follow three couples through completely ordinary evenings, when a reply comes back short, someone checks, or a “Sure, no problem” turns out to be anything but. You see what goes on in your head and how it lands with the other person. What this book gives you: Distance from your thoughts. You’ll notice when your head turns a short reply into a whole story, and you’ll learn to separate what you actually know from what isn’t written anywhere. The other person’s side. You’ll find out what all the asking, testing, and checking sets off in the person next to you, and how to say directly what you need instead. A different way to handle jealousy. You’ll understand who you’re really following when you open a profile, and what you can do with the feeling without controlling your partner. Better conversations after a fight. You’ll learn what’s still left to do once a fight is over, and what an apology sounds like when it isn’t asking for comfort. Clarity when you have doubts. You’ll figure out whether a doubt about your relationship or your feelings is a snapshot or a pattern, and what you can do either way. Something for the worst night. A twenty-minute exercise for the moment when it has already started, so nothing goes out during that time that you’ll regret in the morning. Fifteen short exercises. One in every chapter, made for exactly the situation that chapter is about. No program you have to complete. A chapter for the person who loves you. In case you want to show them what’s going on inside you, and they want to know what helps. For you if you’ve just started seeing each other, have been together for years, or have broken up. No jargon, no lecturing, and no promise that everything will be quiet afterward. Written by Sophie Sterling, who knows these evenings from her own head and from her inbox. If a particular text came to mind while you were reading this, this is your book.